The Office
Spent yesterday deconstructing – OH! I mean organizing – Tom’s office.
Oh…my…Lord…
There are at least 50 piles of 3M abrasive/adhesive literature in my living room mocking me this morning. I’d say a good 200 – 250 pounds or so. And I oughta know, since I was busting open boxes and hauling it in here all day yesterday.
There is also a really big plastic bag of hunting clothes, two rifles, binoculars, a camo ball cap, a blaze orange ball cap, an economy-size bottle de-scenting soap, misc bullets and shotgun shells, 2 boxes of fishing line, hunting boots, at least a dozen arrows, one of those thingies that you can put feathers on arrows with, paper targets and on and on ad infinitum…sitting at the top of the stairs waiting for some manly man to come along and get a clue.
Recycled 30 pounds (probably more) of hunting and fishing magazines I found tucked back in the closet in ratty old Cabela’s bags.
Tom came out of his now-decluttered office and walked through the living room last night…which looks like 3M threw up in it…smiling and clucking about what a fine job I’m doing. He mentioned that he thinks there might be another few boxes of literature in the garage…somewhere.
When he lost his job last year, I decided that the care and cleaning of Tom’s office wasn’t my responsibility anymore. Seeing as how he was no longer working, he would have time to clean it up himself.
It occurred to me that since he’s now retired – we could job share – you know – the housework.
Hilarious.
Up until then, Tom and I had sighed and accepted our old extinct dinosaur of a marriage where he earned a salary and I took care of the house and finances. Understand…I wasn’t trained for this in the 70’s when we were all burning our bras and reading The Feminine Mystique. I don’t know any other women my age who live like this. I can hardly write it without wishing for one of those little black rectangles to cover my eyes so you won’t know who I am.
It…this old marriage we have…has evolved into me picking up after Tom. I’m the Picker Upper. He’s the Layer Downer. (don’t ask him about this…he will lie and say it’s the other way around). I fought being the Picker Upper for a long, LONG time by bitching and sniping at him at every opportunity. I tried ignoring his stuff…and him. This did NOT work. It was sorta like putting a cork in a bottle of soda and giving it a good shake. It was just a matter of time before I popped that cork. It took YEARS, but I finally had to admit that here was a battle I could not win. I had to either leave the stuff where he left it, divorce him, kill him, or pick up his crap.
Tough choice.
Especially because on those rare occasions when he thinks he’s picking up after himself? Like when he pretends his dirty underwear is a basketball and the hamper is the hoop? Mostly he misses that easy lay-up (which makes me seriously question all those stories about what a smoking hot high school basketball stud he was). Then? He smiles. Shrugs his shoulders and walks out of the room whistling. Dirty underwear…on the floor…right next to the hamper. This, my friends, enrages me in a way that makes me want to scream profanities and stomp my foot through the floor like Rumplestiltskin.
Which is not a good look on me.
There were two areas in particular…hunting crap and tools…left laying around the house at random…that I had pretty much taken to pitching into his office and closing the door.
This was my “Norma Rae” act of defiance to the unfair job I’ve been forced to endure.
Tom never really noticed.
But it has all come back to bite me in the butt bigtime.
Today…I’ll finish organizing the deconstruction…tuck everything neatly away so Tom can find it when he needs it (except the &^%$# hunting stuff…that’s going into the great abyss in the basement we call “Tom’s side”).
So he can make some money.
And I can buy me some bedroom furniture.
Party on.